DEAR ABBY: My daughter was recently married. My niece - a talented artist - hand-painted flowers on wine glasses for the dinner reception following the ceremony. They were intended to be keepsakes for each of the adult guests.
At the end of the evening, I gathered four glasses from our family's table. When I turned around, the four glasses were gone. Glasses disappeared from our table, the head table, and my niece's (the artist).
The following day, someone mentioned to me that they had seen certain guests leave with four to six glasses each. One woman even had her child, who was loaded down with glasses, make several trips to her car.
We've figured out who the culprits were: out-of-towners who stayed at the home of one of the groom's relatives. Should we ask these people to return the glasses?
- Mother of the Bride in Mesa, Ariz.
DEAR MOTHER: By all means ask - but there is no guarantee they'll be returned. People who take more than their share usually feel an inflated sense of entitlement. Although their manners were atrocious, please don't let this cause in-law problems before the marriage has even begun.
DEAR ABBY: I am in a one-year relationship with a wonderful man who is divorced with two children. The kids and I get along great - or at least I thought we did. It turns out they are making up lies about me and telling their mother. My boyfriend and his ex have a strained relationship and fight about everything. I love his children, but I don't know how to handle this. What do you think I am doing wrong?
- Telling the Truth in Duluth
DEAR TELLING THE TRUTH: You're not doing anything wrong. Either the kids are trying to cause a breakup with the idea their parents will reunite, or they are telling their mother things they think she wants to hear. There's nothing you can do about it. Your boyfriend will have to clear the air with his former spouse.