Dear Abby: Wedding weekend fans old flames into an affair
DEAR ABBY: "Jane," the daughter of a lifelong friend, attended my son's wedding with her husband. My son and Jane have known each other since childhood, and always flirted and acted as if they had a crush on each other.After seeing each other during the weekend, my son left his wife of only one month and started a long-distance relationship with Jane. Jane continues to live with her husband. My son and Jane have been open about their relationship with everyone in our families except her father and her husband. Those of us who know about this relationship are sick at heart and skeptical about who Jane's true love is — her husband or my son. Jane's sister is being married soon. If Jane is still keeping my son in a closet, I don't want to see her at the upcoming wedding. There's a chance Jane's husband may not be going because there's evidence he might have an idea that his marriage is not healthy.
DEAR ABBY: "Jane," the daughter of a lifelong friend, attended my son's wedding with her husband. My son and Jane have known each other since childhood, and always flirted and acted as if they had a crush on each other.
After seeing each other during the weekend, my son left his wife of only one month and started a long-distance relationship with Jane. Jane continues to live with her husband. My son and Jane have been open about their relationship with everyone in our families except her father and her husband. Those of us who know about this relationship are sick at heart and skeptical about who Jane's true love is — her husband or my son.
Jane's sister is being married soon. If Jane is still keeping my son in a closet, I don't want to see her at the upcoming wedding. There's a chance Jane's husband may not be going because there's evidence he might have an idea that his marriage is not healthy.
Should we attend the wedding, or stay away to avoid the pain of seeing the woman who has kept my son on a roller-coaster ride for years?
DEAR T.G. OR NOT T.G.: Your son dumped his wife of only one month for a married woman, and you're worried about HIS pain? Stop involving yourself in this melodrama and let him work this out for himself. If Jane dumps her husband for him, he may have the girl of his childhood dreams. If she doesn't, he will learn an important life lesson.
As to whether you should attend Jane's sister's wedding, take a Dramamine and go. It's going to be a thrill ride I wouldn't miss if I could get a ticket.