Dear Abby: Wife with appetite for sex has husband who's never hungry
DEAR ABBY: I am 38 and have been married to a good husband and provider for 11 years. We have two beautiful children and a lovely home. We appear to be the perfect couple.Our problem is that my husband seems to be intimidated by my sexuality. In the past, I have told my husband what pleases me. My comments made him feel inadequate, and he has completely given up. We haven't had sex in two years. He says he would rather pleasure himself so he doesn't have to worry that he isn't "doing it right."
DEAR ABBY: I am 38 and have been married to a good husband and provider for 11 years. We have two beautiful children and a lovely home. We appear to be the perfect couple.
Our problem is that my husband seems to be intimidated by my sexuality. In the past, I have told my husband what pleases me. My comments made him feel inadequate, and he has completely given up. We haven't had sex in two years.
He says he would rather pleasure himself so he doesn't have to worry that he isn't "doing it right."
I am a normal, red-blooded woman, and I need sex several times a month. Is that so wrong?
I have resorted to having an affair with a man whose wife isn't interested in sex, but I would prefer having a sex life with my husband.
I think my husband knows I am unfaithful. However, he accepts it because it's easier for him to deal with than having sex with me.
Is there anything I can do to make my husband try again?
DEAR DESPERATELY: Having affairs may temporarily satisfy your sexual needs, but it can only damage your marriage further.
If ever there were candidates who could benefit from sex therapy, it is you and your husband.
Even though he may be reluctant to face this problem, insist that he see a therapist with you. Please don't wait — it could save your marriage. nw