Help! Hubby is busting our budget!

Dear Dave,

I have a question about budgeting. I give myself and my husband $150 a month each for blow money to be used on whatever we want. I'm upset because he spends all his eating out, then he buys other things he wants that he has no money for. Am I being too stingy?

Cheryl

Dear Cheryl,

I think you guys are handling your money poorly. You're acting like his mother instead of his wife, and he's acting like a little boy instead of a man. You don't want to give your husband an allowance and then not be happy when he spends money "he didn't have" because he went over what you dictated to him. That's a bad budget process.

The budget process, if you're the nerd in the family, should start with you writing it all out. Then he sits down with you, has an equal say in the decisions and you two okay it together. He needs to understand that this is you asking him to man-up and be part of the decision-making process, so that you can both be in agreement as to what's best for the family. In one sense, you may not like it at first, because right now you've got control of things. But in another sense, I'll bet you're pretty tired of carrying the weight of all the financial decision-making and being the only adult in the household.

He doesn't even have to work on all that much. I want you to lay it out, but I expect him to sit down and go over it all with you. You're not asking him to be an accountant with a pocket protector, but you have every right to expect him to be in on the decisions that are made about your family and your finances!

-Dave

Dave Ramsey is America's trusted voice on money and business. He has authored five New York Times best-selling books: Financial Peace, More Than Enough, The Total Money Makeover, EntreLeadership and Smart Money Smart Kids. The Dave Ramsey Show is heard by more than 6 million listeners each week on more than 500 radio stations. Follow Dave on Twitter at @DaveRamsey and on the web at daveramsey.com.