Q: I'm a decent-looking 40-year-old woman who has been on Match.com, PlentyofFish.com, Tinder.com, hung at bars, been to singles parties, you name it.
About a year ago, I met a perfectly nice divorced guy. He has two kids and a steady job. Things are good between us - except in bed. He's a basic in-and-out guy. He's not big on foreplay. One-sided oral sex (his side). He even has small equipment. After he falls asleep, I take care of things myself.
But other than that, he's a decent man. He works hard and makes decent money. Lately, he's been hinting about us getting married, with me moving into his townhouse. I'm thinking about saying yes since I'm tired of dating and I really want to get married while I still have my dad to walk me down the aisle.
Mia: Don't do it, girl! Date him if you want, but under no circumstances should you accept a ring from this guy. You'll regret it if you do.
Don't sell yourself short. Hold off until you find the right man. You'll know it when you've found him. Stumpy ain't it.
Steve: Lousy sex is often a deal-breaker, but maybe if you had a frank discussion about his shortcomings, so to speak, he might step up his game.
Q: I've recently become a big fan of Spanx. I wear them all the time and am wondering what guys think about them? Is this a turn off?
Mia: Depends on the guy, I think. Why not just make it a moot issue and not wear them when you're expecting things to get hot and heavy?
Steve: Most guys understand packaging. They know once the wrapper comes off, the candy bar won't look so good. But the connection you make with a man should be about what's on the inside, not the outside.
Steve is a 50-something married man who's been around the block. Mia is a younger, recently married woman with an all-together different attitude. They may not agree, but they have plenty of answers. Contact them at S&M@phillynews.com or S&M c/o Daily News, 801 Market St., Philadelphia, PA 19107.