Tell Me About It: Not how friend would act
I kept her request faithfully, but the news got out early anyway. I was blamed and heavily criticized for breaking the promise after the other girl pointed the finger at me.
I was shocked and, as is typical for me, did not say much because I did not understand at first what was really going on. Then, because she was pregnant, I did not want this to escalate and cause a lot of drama and I guessed the lying friend probably would not have told the truth anyway. I was crushed that she never even asked me what the truth was.
I see that they are still friends now, and I still get the cold shoulder (and some snarky comments) from my friend. She still does not know how deceitful the other girl was (is) and that I actually was a good friend and valued her friendship very much.
Answer: Google tells me the average retainer for a publicist is $1,125, give or take, so if you really want to clear the books you'll need to send her an invoice.
You thought you were a friend, and she thought you were under contract to her company, All About Me L.L.C. Asking you for your side of the story is what a friend would have done; firing you unceremoniously is what an (incompetent) employer would do.
Next time you see her, sure, ask her rhetorically, "Did it ever occur to you that I wasn't the one, way back in the day, who leaked your pregnancy news?" Just don't name the true perp, since you only suspect, and don't expect satisfaction - it's the articulating, not the response, you're after, because history says this woman will not vindicate you.
And even if she does, don't allow yourself back within her reach. She apparently remains unaware that feelings other than her own matter. You were a good friend who valued her, yes, but I'm not seeing where she returned that favor. Be grateful you live somewhere else.
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