Adapted from a recent online discussion.
Question: About a month ago my husband, out of nowhere, informed me that he no longer wanted to be with me, and we are now separating. I am extremely hurt and frustrated, but we are keeping things as civil as possible, and have been able to negotiate our separation terms on our own.
My husband travels frequently for his job - usually two to three weeks total each month - and I'm wondering if you can provide me with some guidance as to the best way to uphold my son's relationship with my husband's parents through the separation and divorce. I have always had a good relationship with my in-laws. They live about an hour away from us, and in the past, I have taken our son to certain family gatherings there even if my husband was away.
I'm wondering how to balance my own feelings of not wanting to attend these gatherings and not feeling "obligated" to do so anymore, with my desire to do what's best for my son regarding his relationship with my husband's parents, and with their desire to see their grandson. Should I still take my son to these family events when my husband is not here to take him, or is there a way to bow out gracefully? So far, I have politely delayed giving a definite answer to their invitation, but I know I can't hold out forever.