We are in a committed relationship and have discussed marriage in its early stages.

However, we are in complete opposition regarding a wedding celebration. I want an elaborate hall wedding, and she wants to save money and have a more intimate buffet wedding in her sister's backyard.

She wants a clown, magician and inflatable bouncing machine for children at the celebration, but I think it's more for her own enjoyment.

Can you suggest a compromise?

Your girlfriend's idea sounds like a lot of fun for an engagement party or rehearsal dinner but not for a wedding.

Bouncy castles, beer and bridesmaids do not mix.

You could dial down your own concept and still have a lovely, elegant and memorable affair that also conveys your girlfriend's sense of fun - but doesn't cost a year's wages or involve a clown.

When I married my own Mr. Fancy Pants last year, I wanted to serve barbecue chicken and corn on the cob at the reception dinner.

He didn't.

We compromised by doing everything his way.

(Not that I'm bitter.)

When it comes to marriage, sometimes the best compromise is to recognize that the other person might actually have the better idea.