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Friday, December 11, 2009


Last Saturday, Dec. 5th, something startling and wonderful happened at The Aramingo Diner in Port Richmond. 

The 52-year-old landmark restaurant at 3356 Aramingo Ave. is open 24 hours a day, so it's always a-bustle. But the place really hops during weekend breakfast and lunch time. Last Saturday was no different, and both wings of the diner - the booth area and the bigger dining room -  were lively.

The manager on duty, Linda (who asked that I not mention her last name here, for reasons I can't get into but let's just say everything worked out okay...), tells me that a couple in their 30s paid their check at the register, then asked the cashier to let them secretly pay the check of another couple in the dining room - a couple they didn't know.

"They just wanted to do it," she said. "They thought it would be a nice thing to do."

When the unsuspecting patrons went to pay their check, they were floored to find out that strangers had picked up their tab. So they asked the cashier to let them pay another table's check, also anonymously.

When that table's patrons approached the register, they, too, decided to pay the favor forward for yet another table of unsuspecting strangers.

You know where this is going, right?

For two hours, delighted customer after delighted customer continued to pay the favor forward. And a buzz began to grow. Not among patrons, who had no inkling what was going down at the register, but among the dining-room wait staff  - Marvin, Rosie, Jasmine and Lynn - and other Aramingo workers moving in and out of the room.

"We were amazed," says Linda, adding that neither she nor her staffers that day recognized any of the participating patrons as regulars. "Nobody knew each other. But once they found out someone paid their check, they got excited and wanted to do the same thing for another table."

The checks weren't huge, says Linda. They varied between about twelve bucks and $30 (many of the sneaky do-gooders even included tip money in the gift).

But the impact made an out-sized impression on the staff, who marveled at how that initial, single act of generosity kept repeating itself.

Says Linda, "In thirty years working here, I've never seen anything like it. You might have someone pick up a check for another table, but usually it's because they know them."

All in all, about 20 checks were "paid forward" (a term coined by author Catherine Ryan Hyde, whose 2000 book, Pay It Forward was made into an earnestly schmaltzy Hollywood movie).

The lovely cycle finally ended, two hours after it began, when a lone diner, clearly unacquainted with the "pay it forward" concept, seemed befuddled that someone had picked up his check. He simply accepted the favor, grunted, and left.

Notes Linda, "He didn't even leave a tip."

Which didn't diminish the day's sweetness, which has lingered among the Aramingo staff. Linda herself decided to pay the lesson forward a few days later, when she was standing in line at the Wawa.

"There was a cop behind me. I said to the guy at the register, 'See what's in his hands, and charge me and not him.' It was a cup of coffee. I told the guy not to tell the cop I paid for it. I didn't want it to look like a bribe."

The cop figured things out, though, and gave Linda a wave and a smile when he got outside, which made her feel good.

Says Linda, "It was a nice thing to be part of."

So, on the off-chance that the first pay-it-forward couple at the Aramingo Diner is reading this, please know that your gesture of kindness didn't end when you walked out the door.

It morphed into hours of additional kindnesses. And who knows what kindnesses those gestures prompted?

Maybe, when folks read this blog post, the cycle will rev up again - not necessarily at the Aramingo, but wherever readers are inspired to give to others, just for the fun of it.

Posted by Ronnie Polaneczky @ 4:30 AM  Permalink | 15 comments
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  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 8:13 AM, 12/11/2009
    It's a great concept if you can dodge the bullets at The Mingo!
    hiyld
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  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 8:26 AM, 12/11/2009
    If we could all just do one act of kindness, it doesn't have to be paying for something, it could be opening a door for someone, a smile, etc., this world would be a better place. Many thanks to the thirty something couple who started this, your kind and generous spirit inspired others and hopefully alot more. Happy Holidays !
    Pooh
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 8:46 AM, 12/11/2009
    Merry Christmas to all and to a good day
    prep5454
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 9:47 AM, 12/11/2009
    It's very inspirational to read about good people doing good things, especially during the season of Advent. It proves that there's still hope for man and womankind!
    Deacon Steve
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 10:08 AM, 12/11/2009
    @Eric. Yes. I believe this is news. And GOOD news for once. With all this killing kids and racial beatings in the news its nice to hear that people havn't lost their spirit. I also give to the needy and less fortunate than I but this "paying it forward" has a deeper message, I hope you realize that.
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 11:28 AM, 12/11/2009
    Hey Eric, Learn how to spell CONFISCATE then..come back on here and spout your uncharitable ways...
    Jim M.
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 12:12 PM, 12/11/2009
    Thanks to all the positive commenters--sometimes I get very disheartened by the bitterness readers contaminate this site with, so it's good to know people still smile at happy-ending, human interest stories like this. Eric, think about these good people next time you feel like raining on the parade.
    ad2321
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 2:05 PM, 12/11/2009
    I no longer live in Philly/Port Richmond, but I miss the Aramingo's cheesecake!!! That is the best in all of Philly as far as I am concerned. So glad to hear that not only is the place still there but such nice things going on as well!
    Phillygrlatheart
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 2:18 PM, 12/11/2009
    Eric Von Zipper: HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Your comment is hilarious and takes nothing away from this story of kindness. Awesome.
    ct23
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 10:58 AM, 12/14/2009
    I cannot believe this made the news! It was my fiance and I who were the first recipients of this act of kindness. When we heard that the first couple had paid for our breakfast, we were in awe, shocked by what they have done and could not think of anything else but to do this for someone else. I am so glad it continued for hours to come as we could not forget what had just happened to us. Because of this, we have made it a tradition to do the same thing for many more years to come. Thank you to the first couple who have done this for us! Happy Holidays!
    chanthyk
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 4:19 PM, 12/15/2009
    Hey chanthyk - can you give me a call at 215-854-2217? thanks! Ronnie Polaneczky polaner@phillynews.com
    ronnie polaneczky
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 12:53 PM, 12/16/2009
    Great story. Had a similar one with a colleague who paid it forward at a Starbuck's drivein. He knew the manager and the manager bought his coffee, so he paid for the car behind him. The next guy did that, and so forth for 23 cars. Merry Christmas all. Eric, I hope you keep on helping out poor folks. If you feel like you need to be recognized for that, well, here is your recognition: Thank you for doing that.
    msmeno
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 2:06 PM, 12/18/2009
    Hey, Eric Von Zipper...why didn't you leave a tip?
    rodtrent
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 9:17 AM, 12/19/2009
    Hey everyone, here's an update on this charming story: http://www.philly.com/philly/blogs/what_happened/79662282.html
    ronnie polaneczky


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About Ronnie Polaneczky

When my phone rings here at the Daily News, nine times out of ten the caller begins the conversation with, “Yeah, so what happened was…”.

Because this is Philly, the caller doesn’t say, “My name is Bob” – or Mary – “and I wonder if I could have a moment of your time?” Philadelphians are too direct for that. They just say, “Yeah, so what happened was…”, and then tumble into a tale they think oughta be shared with a wider audience. I love getting these calls (even the ones where it becomes clear, after 30 seconds, where the caller sowed the seeds of his own misery), because they give me chance to connect with fellow citizens in a way that no other job allows. Well, okay, no other job for which I’m remotely qualified.

That’s why my blog is titled “So What Happened Was…”. To me, it’s the quintessentially Philly way of saying, “Once upon a time.” When I hear it, I know a good story is coming. And I can’t wait to see how it turns out.

Ronnie Polaneczky has been an award-winning columnist for The Philadelphia Daily News since 1999, offering a front-steps perspective on every aspect of city life, from the sublime to the stupid. In her past life, she was the editor-in-chief of Atlantic City Magazine, associate editor at Philadelphia Magazine and a fulltime freelancer published in Ladies Home Journal, Good Housekeeping, Redbook, Reader's Digest, Men's Health, MarieClaire and others. She lives with her husband, daughter and various pets in the city's Fairmount section, where she dreams of one day singing The National Anthem at an Eagles game. In addition to her column and blog, you can enjoy Ronnie's musings in podcast form here.


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