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Monday, November 16, 2009

Today marks the 15th anniversary of the funeral of Eddie Polec. He was the  Cardinal Dougherty High School senior who was beaten mercilessly by a gang of baseball-bat-wielding thugs on Nov. 11th, 1994,  on the steps of St. Cecilia - the Fox Chase Catholic church where he'd served as an altar boy. He died the next day of his brutal injuries. His funeral, four days later, was so crowded with mourners that the neighborhood around St. Cecilia's was jammed for hours.

I could recount the whole sad and terrible story here, but I'll link, instead, to this piece, published in the Northeast Times on the 10th anniversary of Eddie's passing. 

For many of us, though, no recap is needed. We recall vividly how terribly Eddie's vicious murder rocked the city. Not just for the fact that it was a gang of marauding suburban teens who inflicted the blows that killed him. But because Philadelphia's 9-1-1 system failed Eddie so completely that night.

And yet in the awful aftermath of Eddie's death we also witnessed moments of incredible grace as his wonderful family - parents John and Kathy and siblings Billy and Christy -  handled their shock and sorrow with extraordinary dignity and resolve. They repeatedly called for calm, urging Eddie's grieving friends and the community at large to honor Eddie's memory by not partaking in the brand of violence that had torn him from them. And they refused to turn the teen's death into a multimillion-dollar lawsuit against the city. Instead, the Polecs pushed for wholesale changes in the 9-1-1 system.

I've reached out over the last few weeks to John and Kathy Polec, to ask how their family has fared in the last 15 years. They've not responded to requests for an interview.

So I'd like to take this opportunity to tell them what I would've told them, face to face, if I'd had the chance:

That I'm still so sorry for their loss. That I know I'm not alone in saying I remain inspired by the courage and character they exhibited during a time of unimaginable heartbreak.

And that we'll never forget their son.

 

Posted by Ronnie Polaneczky @ 6:10 AM  Permalink | 14 comments
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  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 8:02 AM, 11/16/2009
    Rest in peace, Eddie!
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 8:50 AM, 11/16/2009
    Thanks, Stayaway......I was wondering if they were out
    TomM
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 9:18 AM, 11/16/2009
    I remember Eddie well...not because I knew him personally but because I can still recall my utter shock and dismay at what had happened to him. I also remember watching his father on the news in the days afterward. What a lovely man. He was the calming and uniting force in the city when his own heart was at its most vulnerable.
    america
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 9:25 AM, 11/16/2009
    Ronnie, we need an update on the fate of the animals released from prison - one serv3ed 10 years. Have they gotten into more trouble or have they gone on to live productive lives? Are they in jail or working quietly in relative anonymity? If the latter, then the death of Eddie Polec was not in vain.
    James
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 9:42 AM, 11/16/2009
    Mr Polec was a saint at a time when I would have acted differently. This was a man worthy of the Nobel Peace Prize. His calm and character made me feel less Christian. RP, thank you for reminding us.
    abnrgr
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 10:52 AM, 11/16/2009
    May God continue to Bless the Polec family. I hope the murderers suffer every day realizing what they took away from the Eddie and the Polecs. High School and College greaduations, Weddings, Children, etc... This family's strengh amazes me.
    pnolan
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 11:05 AM, 11/16/2009
    abnrgr, thanks for the perfect comment. My continued sympathy and undying admiration for Mr. and Mrs. Polek and family.
    moira990
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 11:21 AM, 11/16/2009
    I don't blame the Polecs for not returning your calls - why bother asking for comments when they clearly want to be left alone. Let them be, they deserve it.
    dpcoz
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 11:33 AM, 11/16/2009
    Obviously Polaneczky, you never experienced the loss of a child. If you did you would leave the Polecs in peace. Instead you want to rehash a terrible memory to fill space in this rag. Hack journalism at it's finest!
    junethe4th
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 8:40 AM, 11/17/2009
    I was living not far from that area at the time. The story sickened me. I remember it, every time I see the green cross memorial that was set up for Eddie. Respect the familly's wishes. Keep an eye on young gang 'packs' roving around the area. This is whether whether they are they are just hanging around,or from private school or public school.
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 8:57 AM, 11/17/2009
    I also remember the tragic loss of Eddie and the grace and courage shown by his family. Having lost my son in May of the same year,my heart cried for them. I hope things are better,though they will never be the same. God bless and RIP Eddie.
    schvaaga
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 12:57 PM, 11/20/2009
    I can't believe it has been 15 years. I, too, wonder about the lives of those who attacked him. God bless Eddie and peace to his family.
    JEGirl
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 1:49 PM, 11/02/2010
    My prayers go out to the Polec family as the 2010 anniversary approaches yet again, while I didn't know this young man, his brutal passing affects me deeply, and as he is buried near my father I often stop at his marker to send a prayer for him, Polec family, I will keep you in my prayers.
    DIAMONDANO


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About Ronnie Polaneczky

When my phone rings here at the Daily News, nine times out of ten the caller begins the conversation with, “Yeah, so what happened was…”.

Because this is Philly, the caller doesn’t say, “My name is Bob” – or Mary – “and I wonder if I could have a moment of your time?” Philadelphians are too direct for that. They just say, “Yeah, so what happened was…”, and then tumble into a tale they think oughta be shared with a wider audience. I love getting these calls (even the ones where it becomes clear, after 30 seconds, where the caller sowed the seeds of his own misery), because they give me chance to connect with fellow citizens in a way that no other job allows. Well, okay, no other job for which I’m remotely qualified.

That’s why my blog is titled “So What Happened Was…”. To me, it’s the quintessentially Philly way of saying, “Once upon a time.” When I hear it, I know a good story is coming. And I can’t wait to see how it turns out.

Ronnie Polaneczky has been an award-winning columnist for The Philadelphia Daily News since 1999, offering a front-steps perspective on every aspect of city life, from the sublime to the stupid. In her past life, she was the editor-in-chief of Atlantic City Magazine, associate editor at Philadelphia Magazine and a fulltime freelancer published in Ladies Home Journal, Good Housekeeping, Redbook, Reader's Digest, Men's Health, MarieClaire and others. She lives with her husband, daughter and various pets in the city's Fairmount section, where she dreams of one day singing The National Anthem at an Eagles game. In addition to her column and blog, you can enjoy Ronnie's musings in podcast form here.


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