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Why shot-at Mom refused relocation

Why we did the "No Snitchin' story. And why shot-at mom refused help.

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Why shot-at Mom refused relocation

POSTED: Thursday, August 4, 2011, 11:15 AM
Anthony Shelley, shows his scars where the bullet entered his head. He says he won't testify against the person who shot him.

In Wednesday's paper, I wrote about Sharletta Ambey, a West Philadelphia woman trying to raise her children in a world of "No Snitchin." In late July, her Wynnefield rowhouse was riddled with about 20 bullets while she was inside with her fiance, three young children and toddler grandchild. Police believe the attack was an attempt to keep her son, Anthony, 19, from testifying against the man who shot him earlier this year. Anthony wasn't home when his house was fired upon and no one was injured. He says he not going to testify. 

The article got a lot of response from readers: most shared their frustration over the silence and fear that plagues neighborhoods and shared their concern for the safety of Ambey's children. Others wondered why we would even write about the attack: "Doesn't publicizing the family's situation just make them more of a target?" people asked. 

Ambey wanted her story told. She is angry and fed up. She said that the people who want to harm her son already know where she lives -- they did shoot up her home -- and we took precautions to protect her privacy, especially her children's. We did not publish her street name, show photos of her children and were very careful how we used quotes and on what material we included. We wanted her story told, because it deserves to be, and because it tells us lot about how we are as a city. But we did not want to inflame her situation. This is real life. She was happy with the article, she said. Glad to see it all written down.

We live in a city without witnesses. Her family's story illustrates why - the uncompromising realities so many witnesses face: testify and face possible retailation for being a "snitch." Don't testify and the person who hurts you walks free and a piece of you - and the soul of the city - dies in the process. Why put yourself and your family in danger? Why not handle it yourself? Get a gun. It's a code that perpetuates violence. In this case, it devastating a family. God help us all if something happens to her little ones.

Wednesday, the District Attorney's Office stepped in and offered Ambey witness relocation - four months of temporary housing and moving costs. The family could be out of the neighborhood in days. Only thing, and this makes sense, of course, is once they left they couldn't go back.

Ambey turned the help down. She cried over her choice.

She has lived in her neighborhood her whole life. She raised seven kids in her home. She is close to paying off the mortgage. Her friends and family live nearby. She works in the neighborhood (as a gardener in Fairmount Park) and so does her fiance. It's all she knows. It's her world as damaged as it is. She may change her mind.

"We'll hang in there the best we can, I guess," she said. She is thinking of getting a gun permit.

Anthony has been living with out-of-state relatives. I visited him. It's many worlds away from the neighborhood where his family deals with the consequences of his actions.  

He choose the corner boy world. He said the person who shot him did so over a beef stemming from drugs.

When he thought he was near death, when the detectives were at his bedside, he pointed to a photo of the person he said shot him.

When he recovered, and had to live again in the place where he was born, he denied his words. His scars remain, but his memory faded. He doesn't know who shot him, he said.

He's not going to testify. He wants people to know that.

"I'm not testifying," he said again and again. "Snitching is for punks."

"What good would it do anyway?" he wanted to know. 

Listening to him, you got the feeling none of this was over.

He said he feels bad for his family.

"They don't deserve this, " he said.

Mike Newall @ 11:15 AM  Permalink | 36 comments
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Comments  (37)
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 11:48 AM, 08/04/2011
    I can't imagine being in this situation, she must be going through quite a lot and I can see where she's coming from and why she made the decision she made. However, if I were in her position I probably would have relocated. It's hard to leave stuff behind but when your life and the lives of your family are in danger that's another story. You only get one life. On the other hand, it's sad that she would be put in the position of having to leave her whole life behind. It's just a very unfortunate situation.
  • 1 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 11:53 AM, 08/04/2011
    The sad part about this article is he really believes that they will not kill his family....He can never come back home and if and when he can be killed at any time... I don’t think that snitching is for punks, I think he afraid... In this is why these young black boys should be careful of the choices that they make because it effects all parties.
    center city
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 12:00 PM, 08/04/2011
    The fiance must be a fool!! Time to find another West Philly chick without the drama!!
    captainranger
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 12:02 PM, 08/04/2011
    reread the last 8 lines...
    raynesrock
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 12:03 PM, 08/04/2011
    It is an unfortuante situation and it is one the son's actions caused. He, too, is a punk.
    dontavoidtheobvious
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 12:36 PM, 08/04/2011
    The things people will only say when sitting behind a computer...
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 12:49 PM, 08/04/2011
    Until we have police who are honest and respect the people they "serve" there can be no trust. One day they want you to be their friend and tell them what happened and the next they are pushing an 11 year old to lie and say he you kill someone. The blue team can not be trusted
    carla commenate
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 12:50 PM, 08/04/2011
    The victim is now an accessory-he is refusing to turn in an attempted murderer for fear of being a "snitch" or a "punk", while his mother, her fiance, and his 6 other siblings are risking death everyday because of him. It's a shame she turned down the relocation, and I think she should still take it, but I also see how she shouldn't have to be scared out of town because a bunch of murdering failures say so. The citizens of Philadelphia need to start realizing that keeping their mouths shut only allows for someone else to fall victim at the hands of a waste-of-a-life nobody.
    amd804
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 12:51 PM, 08/04/2011
    Thanks @zjackson, I was thinking the same thing!
    jboogiebrown23
  • 1 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 12:52 PM, 08/04/2011
    Oh, so Anthony ws involved in drugs on a drug corner. HE brought this on his family. No sympthy here. AND now he doesn't want to help get a guy off the street that will shoot others. Maybe HE should step up and take care of HIS own problems. What a loser to put his family thru this!
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 1:28 PM, 08/04/2011
    Thumbs up
    jahfakin
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  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 12:53 PM, 08/04/2011
    This is "The Great Society" which all the good intentions has allowed to prosper. The Government needs to throw more money into these societal problems, it has worked so well. NOT
    sillybilly
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 1:00 PM, 08/04/2011
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    BLACKGUY34
  • 0 like this / 0 don't   •   Posted 1:30 PM, 08/04/2011
    Being logical is not a black/white issue. Reep(sic) what you sow. Get over yourself. Be a role model, not a "it's what the neighborhood is", dude!


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