We're happy to present this excerpt from one of our favorite sites, YourTango. Is your relationship in trouble? Read on to find out!
We humans long for stability in a world where everything is in flux. Despite our wishes, the only certainty in life is constant change. Nothing will be exactly the same tomorrow as it is today.
Rivers erode one bank while causing accretion on another. Just when we think we've settled into a safe existence, we lose a job, someone gets sick, a child is born, a parent dies. Some change is rapid and perceptible like technological innovation or a Summer storm. Other changes take eons like the creation of mountains or the smoothing of jagged rock.
Your relationship is also always changing in perceptible and imperceptible ways. Even the most rock solid union is in a state of flux. Like nature, relationships have seasons and rhythms. During each "season," you build a stronger union or drift apart. Your thoughts, words, attitudes, and behaviors dictate the direction in which change moves. Are you headed toward more intimacy and closeness or away toward isolation and alienation?