Sunday, December 28, 2014

Little girl faces big reality

My dad was hospitalized after a car accident the other day. He's fairly banged up with a bunch of broken bones, but he'll live.

Little girl faces big reality

My dad was hospitalized after a car accident the other day. He's fairly banged up with a bunch of broken bones, but he'll live.

The dilemma I faced was telling the Little Girl. She has heard that people she knew died, but she was never part of the drama.

Still, I couldn't hide the emotion and the basic logistics of dealing with my dad. So I told her. My daughter cried in fear and sadness, and I held her a good, long time.

She'd heard her grandmother had been in a hospital when she'd died. "Is grandpa going to die?" she asked.

I told her that my father would survive this, and it calmed her.

My father was touched that she reacted this way. I was upset that she became so unhappy. But I was also proud that she cared enough about one of her people.

I may have been guilty of letting my girl think the world is all party balloons and cupcakes. A little reality is important to help her grow.

But it just kills me to see her so hurt.

Alfred Lubrano Inquirer Columnist
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A New York City native, Lubrano has written for newspapers since 1980. He's the author of a book, "Limbo: Blue-collar roots, white-collar dreams," and was a commentator for National Public Radio for 16 years. His work has appeared in various national magazines and anthologies. He lives with his daughter in South Jersey, and has worked for the Inquirer since 1995. Reach Alfred at alubrano@phillynews.com.

Alfred Lubrano Inquirer Columnist
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