Designers are perfectionists by nature with an eye for detail and an ability to visualize a desired outcome. We are also like anthropologists, interviewing clients to dissect the information we gather. How do you want your home to look? What is your lifestyle? What do you want your home to say about you? How do you want it to make you feel?
The point of hiring a decorator is to give you the perfect backdrop to then personalize your home, your way. I sometimes hear, “I don’t want my home to look like a designer did it.” We need to be careful and respectful of not “overdecorating.” You know, those homes where everything looks so perfect. “A place for everything and everything in its place” thinking. If everything is too perfect there is a fear of looking sterile; furniture you’re afraid to sit on, accessories that say do not touch.
Since our home is a reflection of who we are, our narrative should be, “What is it we want it to say to the world?” We want our home to reflect comfort and joy, create a sense of well being, and envelope us in harmony. However, life can be messy. Lives are not perfect, neat, or tidy all the time and it would be unrealistic to think our homes would not follow suit. Therefore, I embrace things being a little eschew. I build in things that might be interpreted as “slightly off.” Finding the line between perfection and a little chaos is a challenge and frankly, that’s where the interest in the space lies.
The Perfectly Imperfect Home by Deborah Needleman takes readers through a plethora of suggestions as to how one might really live within one's sacred but not too sacred space. The soul of the home comes from the lives that are led within its walls. Some things to think about that help create that soul, that slight mess, might be less than perfectly arranged pillows or bookshelves, meaningful travel mementos that we gather on journeys past, collections created with a curated eye, perhaps dog toys in a decorative basket, or pictures of kids framed and placed together for impact and whimsy. Everything in a room should be able to be enjoyed. Nothing too precious! I generally incorporate antiques into the interiors I design because a bit of patina relaxes even the most serious of spaces, creates an interesting juxtaposition of old and new, formal and informal. The history of a piece adds that soul. Clearly, creating relaxed rooms makes you feel relaxed!