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POSTED: Monday, July 27, 2009, 9:12 AM
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This chat will be about learning disabilities in children.

Dan will begin his chat with invited guest, Richard Selznick of the Cooper University Hospital Learning Center and author of "The Shutdown Learner" before inviting all others to join.

POSTED: Monday, July 20, 2009, 10:00 AM
Filed Under: Current events

This chat will be an open discussion about what it takes to make changes in our lives and how we can begin letting go of the assumptions we have been making for years.

POSTED: Monday, July 13, 2009, 9:01 AM

With the divorce rate just under 50 percent, most who get divorced remarry, creating a stepfamily. And anyone who has ever been in a stepfamily knows that they are complicated to say the least! This chat will be about many of the issues stepfamilies face and how they can be resolved. Dan is joined today by Dr. Wednesday Martin, author of 'Stepmonster: A New Look at Why Real Stepmothers Think, Feel and Act the Way We Do.'

POSTED: Tuesday, July 7, 2009, 1:39 PM

There is just so much to say and so many stories about this experience that I will do it in pieces.  Overall, the trip was magical, difficult, fun, deeply spiritual, difficult, intimate, wonderful, difficult and worth every minute.

The first three days:
  We just never know what the next moment holds for us, we assume we do and that gives us the illusion of security. But on a trip to a place like Israel, we can even pretend to know what will be happening around the corner.
  This was the case last week on the first day of our adventure to the holy land.  I sat overlooking the beauty of the Galilei in northern Israel with my precious grandson Sam, my daughter, son-in-law and 25 soon to be dear friends from my synagogue in South Jersey.  I had been to this beautiful and interesting land twice before, but this trip was about living out a personal dream.  I wanted to introduce Debbie the land of our ancestors and tell her about my deepest wish to have Sam come back here for his bar mitzvah. So there we were sitting on the grounds of a kibbutz, watching the body of water that Jesus is said to have walked on, just trying to absorb the meaning of the moment. Bedtime was early that night as we had arrived that morning after a 12 hour flight.  So shortly after my nurse put me into bed, she plugged in my wheelchair as we routinely do, but this time was different.  The battery charger blew out all of the circuits and in turn blew out the charger.  All of a sudden being in a remote part of an exotic land on the Sabbath went from a deep spiritual experience to: "holy s**t, what now?"I could add a little more drama to the story like how the wheelchair almost ran out of charge before we got a new charger, but everything was resolved in 36 hours.Just like a dead charger was unexpected, so was the group's response to seeing the new one.  We had been promised that it would be in the lobby of a hotel in Haifa when we arrived the next day but all 25 of us were nervous about it.  And when we saw the brown box in the lobby there was an air of anticipation but when we plugged it in and found success, there was applause.  Debbie later told me that when she heard that applause, she felt like she was part of a large caring support network for the first time in her life.

POSTED: Thursday, June 18, 2009, 10:51 AM

Her real name is Yu-Chen, but everyone calls her Yo-Yo.  I don't quite know what that means in Mandarin, but it seems like a perfect nickname for this 15-year-old girl with sparkling eyes, a perennial smile and all of the energy and enthusiasm you would expect from someone her age.  Born with a severe hearing impairment, she was one of my fellow winners of the Fervent Love of Life award in Taiwan.  Because of her hearing impairment, she didn't speak her first word till she was nearly 3 years old and despite powerful hearing aids and other interventions, still gets most of her information from reading lips.

As a child, she experienced many of the difficulties children with sensory impairment do.  She spent many hours with difficult and time consuming therapies that interfered with her development of peer relationships.  She also found school difficult until they were able to accommodate her differences.  And of course things got worse with adolescence as she was often ostracized by the other kids.

But despite, or because, of these difficulties, she was an extraordinarily sensitive and compassionate young lady.  When she was old enough, she volunteered a great deal of time being a mentor to autistic children.  After a typhoon, she spent days rescuing abandoned animals and has continued to do so for the last two years.  I found her energy and sensitivity to be magnetic and we became fast friends. The fact that we could not communicate directly with one another didn't seem to be that much of a problem.  She knew some English, but between her speech impediment and her accent, I couldn't understand more than a few words here and there, so all of our communication was either through her mother or my interpreter.

POSTED: Monday, June 15, 2009, 8:59 AM
Filed Under: Current events

Dan Gottlieb chats today on the concept of kindness. People are invited to talk about how it has helped their lives, how its absence has caused pain and what it is inside us all that prevents us from being kind. The chat starts at noon.

POSTED: Monday, May 25, 2009, 8:21 PM
Filed Under: Current events
Depression. What loved ones can do.

Dan will be joined by a mother whose daughter suffers from depression.

POSTED: Monday, May 18, 2009, 9:01 AM
Filed Under: Current events

Join Dan and his guest Steve Newman in a chat about clinical depression. The chat starts at noon. You can post your questions now.


About this blog
Dan Gottlieb is a psychologist and marital therapist and has been in practice nearly 40 years. His career started in community mental health and substance abuse until his accident in 1979 made him a quadriplegic.

Since that time, he has been in private practice. Since 1985, he has been hosting a radio show called "Voices in the Family" on WHYY FM, Philadelphia's NPR affiliate. He was a regular columnist for the Philadelphia Inquirer from 1994 until 2008. He is also the author of four books.

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