Friday, August 1, 2014
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School follow-up with perspective

Okay, I've settled down. I've meditated on my anger and thought about all of the educators and education policymakers who are good people and only care about children. And I feel much better.

School follow-up with perspective

Okay, I've settled down. I've meditated on my anger and thought about all of the educators and education policymakers who are good people and only care about children. And I feel much better.

Righteous indignation and reactive anger might feel good in the moment, but don't really accomplish much other than to release toxins in the blood stream. Over the years, I have learned how teachers and administrators are under crushing and unreasonable rules and expectations. Many get pressure from the state to go in one direction and from parents to go in another.

Add to that, more kids have more kinds of special needs than ever before. And today's world is one that is fraught with anxiety. And now the very real threat of violence to our children.

What can we do? Of course I don't have answers. But I do know that reactive emotions hurt people. And the teachers who read my previous entry might have been hurt or had reactive anger themselves. And to them, I apologize. My reactive emotions also hurt me, they clouded my judgment and raised my blood pressure.

The goal is to reflect and not react. That's what we want to teach our children, yes? A child brings an arrow to school. Perhaps it raises people's anxiety, but the trouble starts when people react to their anxiety rather than this little boy.

It turns out the following day the administrators were more understanding and did everything they could to minimize the issue for the boy and his family. But only time will tell what impact all of those grownups reactive emotions will have on that little boy who brought something really cool into school yesterday.

Dan Gottlieb
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