I’m a 50-something woman who just re-entered the dating scene after a divorce. I am meeting divorced men and women my age, who claim they are looking for a “friends with benefits” relationship. Apparently, they see this as a way to avoid “caring”, “rejection”, and “attachment” which have already traumatized them. I have my doubts that it is humanly possible to “not care” about someone you are intimate with. Do you have a feel for how these arrangements work out????….Is this becoming a socially sanctioned step in the process of recovering from divorce???? ...Is it an admission, that in our society, people carry so much anger, bitterness, and hurt after divorce, that we no longer expect they can love again??? ....Or is it that few people have a support network strong enough to allow them to actually heal??? I guess I'm wondering why people aren't more like oysters, who heal and have a pearl to show for the hard work in the end!!!