I know Dr. Dan is supposed to be compassionate and understanding. And he is not supposed to be reactive without feeling empathy for both sides of the conflict. But today Dr. Dan is taking the day off and his angry, reactive alter ego will be making today's entry.
A friend of mine told me that he and his 10-year-old son were taking a walk in the woods the other day when they found a hunting arrow in a tree. The boy thought this was pretty cool (as most any boy would) and brought it to school the next day to show his friends. And then this little boy with a very cool arrow became a big problem. He and his very cool arrow trigger all sorts of events about deadly weapons and regulations and questions about suspensions or other major consequences. I've heard stories of some schools filing charges against small children. But this boy came home crying and was afraid to face his parents feeling he had done something horrible.
That reaction is not unusual. Children who live in abusive families usually think that their family is normal and there is something wrong with them.
So how we help a small child understand that he is normal and the school that houses him all day is out of control with their anxiety?