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Author gives controversial dating advice to black women

It's offensive. It's off putting. It's insulting to African American and other non-Jewish men. I can see why Nazaree Hines-Starr had to publish "Why Every Black Woman Should Marry a Jewish Man" herself. Yet, when I left it sitting in a pile on my desk, I couldn't help but notice how many of my friends picked it up however briefly.

Author gives controversial dating advice to black women

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Warning:  Don’t read another word of this blog post if you have a problem with gross over generalizing and racial stereotyping. In Nazaree Hines-Starr’s new book, “Why Every Black Woman Should Marry a Jewish Man,” she does an awful lot of that. It’s offensive.  It’s off putting. It’s insulting to African American and other non-Jewish men. I can see why she had to publish it herself. Yet, when I left it sitting in a pile on my desk, I couldn’t help but notice how many of my friends picked it up however briefly. “It is time for African American women to consider all of their options,” Hines-Starr writes. “Women in general should expand their horizons and stop listening to their single girlfriends. Forget about the often hypocritical brothers calling them sellouts, because in the final analysis, their opinions don’t count. Get over those old images of slavery and stop blaming every white man for sins perpetrated by others.”

Here are some of the points Hines-Starr, a black woman married to a Jewish guy, goes on to make:

*Jewish men at least attempt to marry before making babies.

*Jewish men are NOT looking for someone to take care of them.

*Jewish men attend and graduate from college.

*Jewish men don’t display their underwear in public.

*Jewish men are great with financial planning and stability.

Look, I warned you didn’t I?  

Hines-Starr says she wrote the book to help African American women widen their dating horizons - not to denigrate black and non-Jewish guys. But, in fact, that’s exactly what she does by saying one group of men is one way and another group is superior.  It’s sophomoric thinking. I do like her point that women should perhaps try thinking differently about who they're willing to date. But the way to do that is by keeping an open mind - not eliminating an entire racial category of men. 

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