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Thursday, June 25, 2009

 

 

It is easy to assess the latest sex scandal in political terms. South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford's teary confession of an affair yesterday is merely the latest jolt to the GOP's battered image as the self-appointed party of moral rectitude and "family values." That's not just me talking; that's what scads of conservative Republicans are saying today. For instance, here's ex-Reagan strategist Craig Shirley:

"As of today, the GOP cannot get its message heard because too many Americans have turned their backs - or a deaf ear - or are simply laughing too hard at the irony of the party once built upon less government, clean living and family values turned into the sad caricature it has become. It very well might be that, like Lazarus, the GOP must die before it can be reborn. It happened before, in the mid 70’s and may well be happening again. But as Father’s Day has just passed, it is worth noting that the most significant representation of family values - once considered the province of the GOP - in America today is President Barack Obama."

And yet, all the political dimensions notwithstanding (did he finance his travels with the taxpayers' money?), I find that I have a soft spot for Sanford.

Yes, he embarrassed the party that he might have sought to lead in 2012, a party that at this point can ill afford further embarrassment. Yet amidst all the bathos at yesterday's press conference, and in the emails he has exchanged with his lover (more on those emails in a moment), I can see the sincerely love-sick human being who lost his compass for reasons of the heart that have plagued human beings since time immemorial.

This is complicated territory. What I'm suggesting is that while virtually all politicians' affairs are ruinous once they are outed, not all outed politicians' affairs are equally tawdry. Sanford clearly sees his lover as something of a soulmate, and he sees their relationship as something real - which in my book is a tad higher on the quality scale than, say, Bill Clinton enjoying the ministrations of Monica Lewinsky while conferring via phone with a congressman about Bosnia.

Which brings me to the emails. Perhaps you've read them already. It's a sign of the times that nothing is private anymore, as evidenced by the fact that South Carolina's top newspaper managed to obtain Sanford's emails with his mistress. The love notes surfaced in print this morning. One key sampling, from Sanford to the woman identified only by her first name, Maria:

"Do you really comprehend how beautiful your smile is? Have you been told lately how warm your eyes are and how they softly glow with the special nature of your soul...Above all else I love that inner beauty about you...You have a particular grace and calm that I adore. You have a level of sophistication that is so fitting with your beauty. I could digress and say that you have the ability to give magnificently gentle kisses, or that I love your tan lines or that I love the curves of your hips, the erotic beauty of you holding yourself (or two magnificent parts of yourself) in the faded glow of night’s light — but hey, that would be going into the sexual details we spoke of at the steakhouse at dinner — and unlike you I would never do that!...(W)hile all the things above are all too true — at the same time we are in a hopelessly — or as you put it impossible — or how about combine and simply say hopelessly impossible situation of love. How in the world this lightening strike snuck up on us I am still not quite sure..."

OK, so some of that is pretty cringe-worthy...just as anyone's most personal communications would be, when exposed to the world. The point here is that, while many people today are no doubt tempted to treat Mark Sanford solely as an object of derision, we might also want to spoon out at least a dose of empathy.

Rarely does a politician cut himself down to human scale as Sanford did in his press conference yesterday. He came off as a guy trying to sort out his deepest emotions - an inarticulate process that most of us have probably weathered at some point in our lives. In the end, we can condemn his political tin ear and still grant him his flawed humanity. 

 

Posted by Dick Polman @ 12:15 PM  Permalink | 60 comments
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Posted 12:37 PM, 06/25/2009
CD75
Yes, Sanford has issues. It is interesting to compare the media coverage (or lack thereof) back in the day regarding John Edwards. The media turned a blind eye to the Edwards' rumors (except for a tabloid), yet acted like dogs in heat as to the Sanford rumors. A double standard to be sure.
Posted 12:39 PM, 06/25/2009
CD75
Dick, I will drop you a compliment. Today's article was right on and fair. I am going to puke now.
Posted 12:44 PM, 06/25/2009
jmc
They probably printed the Governor's private e-mail under an article about how much they hate George Bush for invading our privacy.
Posted 12:48 PM, 06/25/2009
frankg962
This situation is just another example of how human we all are. It's not like either party has the market cornered when it comes to ethics or family values.
Posted 12:54 PM, 06/25/2009
NEPhilly
Women with latin charms will get you everytime, I am a 'victim' myself :) cd, I agree on the article!
Posted 01:01 PM, 06/25/2009
CutterMcCool
"I could digress and say that you have the ability to give magnificently gentle kisses, or that I love your tan lines or that I love the curves of your hips, the erotic beauty of you holding yourself (or two magnificent parts of yourself) in the faded glow of night’s light"...This is the most hilarious thing I've read in some time. Don't know which is worse; being caught flying all the way to Argentina on a regular basis for a piece, or being caught having written this.
Posted 01:01 PM, 06/25/2009
hejira33312
they are all hypocrites, do as I say not as I do , I could careless how this man expresses himself sexually but he had a ton to say about Bill Clinton so the expression every dog has his day is pretty fitting.
Posted 01:01 PM, 06/25/2009
USA#1
Just another lying self serving two faced hypocritical politician. Mr. Family values goes to Argentina to hook up during Fathers Day weekend. Plus he leaves the state with no one in charge. He certainly is showing strong leadership and high moral standards.
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Posted 01:06 PM, 06/25/2009
USA#1
NE, your right about the Latin women, but it helps if you haven’t been married 20 years to someone else and don’t have four children. They do have some bedroom eyes.
Posted 01:12 PM, 06/25/2009
Catalyst
CD...part of what caused so much attention with this story is his lack of responsibility to doing his job. That along with his hollier-than-thou attitude all these years towards other politicians that cheated.
Posted 01:16 PM, 06/25/2009
Ender
CD - I don't know what you are talking about. The Edwards afair was all over the news. His political career is over and several months later Elizabeth Edwards is still doing interviews to discuss it. Open your eyes and stop pretending to be a victim of the media.
Posted 01:19 PM, 06/25/2009
tom - wilmington, de
This is the last thing I expected from Polman. Perhaps with this affecting top politicos from both parties, it has sparked some empathy. This is also not a sordid affair, like using escorts. However, I am curious as to why so many top politicians would risk so much..as Sanford clearly put at risk (or may have thrown away) any chance at the presidency. Clearly the real power in this world lies with women, who can make men willing to give up everything for their love, their compassion, their attention, and yes, their sexual prowess.
Posted 01:22 PM, 06/25/2009
aviben
WHILE ANOTHER GOP HYPOCRITE DANCES THE SOUTH OF THE BELT-BUCKLE TANGO... DEMOCRACY AND THE RULE OF LAW ARE BEING STOLEN AT THE GRASSROOTS. AND REPORTERS TRYING TO EXPOSE IT HAVE THEIR CAREERS AND LIVES TAKEN APART BY A COVERT GOVERNMENT 'MULTI-AGENCY PROGRAM.' And once again, sex, lies and video distract the mainstream media from exposing a covert American politicide. • Anti-Vigilante Journalist Assaulted by PA Cops: A Set-Up? http://groups.poynter.org/members/blog_view.asp?id=190108 OR http://NowPublic.com/scrivener RE: "Gestapo USA"
Posted 01:28 PM, 06/25/2009
USA#1
My God, CD and Tom have turned into bleeding heart liberals. WTF is going on in the world.
Posted 02:04 PM, 06/25/2009
LJL
The idiot GOP thought they had it all figured out when they impeached Clinton. He beat the rap and now the GOP is in the untenable position of trying to find someone who doesn't have personal flaws. I guess for all their education, the GOP never heard "People in glass houses...". They're anti-gay, BAM, lo and behold they've got their own toe-tappers. Anti-birth control/"abstinence" only - BAM knocked up 17 YO daughters..."Pro-family", "Sanctity of marriage" - BAM Argentinian squeezes, bad love letters and a decimated family. Will SOMEONE with half a brain (currently missing from the GOP) tell these morons that if they worry less about others personal affairs, they may get to govern again?
Posted 02:06 PM, 06/25/2009
Logathis
Why does a sex scandal ruin a politician's career? Does it really matter what they do in their private lives? As long as it's not breaking any laws or using taxpayer money unethically, who cares? Can we prove that affects their performance as a public servant? At the same time, Mr Polman is correct;there are different ranges of scandal. The outings of Senator Vitter and Governor Spitzer come to mind. Clear violations of moral and legal standards. Governor Sanford is seemingly different. You do almost pity him, seeing yourself in his shoes. But as we know, none of that matters. Leaders must inspire people, even morally. We naturally look to them to be examples, and without that they can't be leaders.
Posted 02:07 PM, 06/25/2009
tom - wilmington, de
To quote Alec Baldwin at the Huffington Post..."The rest of the world is about to kick this country right where it counts when it decides to go off the dollar as the reserve currency, and you want to spend five minutes over the fact that Sanford was cheating on his wife? Don't take the bait. Move on." For once, I agree. Egads, what next, I'll make a donation to the Sierra Club or join the ACLU?
Posted 02:07 PM, 06/25/2009
tom - wilmington, de
To quote Alec Baldwin at the Huffington Post..."The rest of the world is about to kick this country right where it counts when it decides to go off the dollar as the reserve currency, and you want to spend five minutes over the fact that Sanford was cheating on his wife? Don't take the bait. Move on." For once, I agree. Egads, what next, I'll make a donation to the Sierra Club or join the ACLU?
Posted 02:11 PM, 06/25/2009
still_independent
tom: I wonder if whatever "it" is that makes someone run for a higher office is the same thing that makes them unable to remain faithful.
Posted 02:18 PM, 06/25/2009
LJL
logathis - Sex scandals don't ruin every politicians career. But they do ruin every GOP politician's career. The party paints themselves as holier-than-thou, and insists on inserting itself (appropriate metaphor for this group) into people's personal affairs, and then wonder why they are in decline when their own members can't follow the rules they set. Notice how most minor sex scandals are tolerated in Europe, essentially because they are much more tolerant of privacy and the separation of personal life and job. Although this idiot Sanford, who is obviously a few snadwiches short of a picnic, managed to set a new level of idiocy with his disappearing act.
Posted 02:18 PM, 06/25/2009
Alec Mento
Stunningly, despite CD75's continued non-response to my points from the other day, I am compelled to agree with his Edwards/Sanford comparison -- Mr. Edwards's affair was "all over the news" only after the *National Enquirer* broke it, which meant a lot of "respectable" news organizations were asleep at the wheel. And Mr. Edwards isn't much less sanctimonious about marriage than Mr. Sanford -- Mr. Edwards also opposes gay marriage, for example, and Mr. Edwards put his own marriage front and center in his campaigning in a way I haven't seen Mr. Sanford do. However, I disagree that the media "acted like dogs in heat" in re Mr. Sanford -- they may be eating up the story now, but for two days all I read about was his disappearance, during which time the media credulously reported whatever Mr. Sanford's aides told them.
Posted 02:19 PM, 06/25/2009
LJL
Oh, and notice that his faux apology went out to people "of faith" in this country.....What a dope.
Posted 02:21 PM, 06/25/2009
donde
I could feel bad for the guy if he weren't married with 4 kids, and if he didn't do this tryst in such a messed up way. If you're married and want to cheat, you separate and divorce. If you're the governor with higher political aspirations, you keep it in your pants, especially when you've been the high moral crusader. And just leaving to go to BA for a long weekend without telling anyone where you are going or transferring power to the lt. governor? It's not as if this guy is an accounts payable clerk at some little company. He's the governor of a state, and what if some sort of emergency happened while he was out of the country and unnreachable? Just incredibly stupid on his part.
Posted 02:26 PM, 06/25/2009
Mr. Smith
Sanford should be taken to Guantanamo and waterboarded.
Posted 02:29 PM, 06/25/2009
still_independent
Sanford is all over the place mentally. In the same email where he writes about "...the erotic beauty of you holding yourself (or two magnificent parts of yourself)", he in the next paragraph writes "I looked to where I often look for advice and counsel, and in I Corinthians 13 it simply says that...". Who writes about his mistress holding her **** and then quotes Corinthians ???
Posted 02:39 PM, 06/25/2009
donde
Nice still_independent. I hadn't seen that he quoted the "...faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love" Bible verse right after he was talking about his mistress' cans. Regardless of political party affiliation, that's just classic. Before he admitted cheating, I saw one article that said 'he's either A) cheating on his wife, or B) is mentally unstable, both of which are bad for a politician.' I'm pretty sure he's a mix of A & B.
Posted 02:52 PM, 06/25/2009
liberal
It seems like Republicans who slip up love being the center of a soap-opera cliche starring themselves, begging for the compassion that their ideology forbids for others.
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Posted 03:05 PM, 06/25/2009
NEPhilly
usa, it does help if you are not married w/children already :), but then again women have made some powerful men do some less than smart things thoughout history! Starting in the beginning with Adam and Eve (if you believe that sort of thing :)
Posted 03:25 PM, 06/25/2009
tom - wilmington, de
Empathy abounds in the Democrat party....John Kerry, quoted today in the Boston Herald..."Too bad if a governor had to go missing it couldn't have been Sarah Palin". More on empathy...last night, during the ABC healthcare infomercial (which rated lowest for the time slot), Obama said we could not take into account a person's "spirit" when making medical decisions. The question was asked by a woman whose mother received a pacemaker at age 100 from a doctor who said she had a spirit for life and is now 105. Obama said "perhapd it would be better if instead of surgery your mother just took a painkiller". Yeah, this Obamacare is gonna be so great. Kennedy's bill exempts Congress, and the health care benefits tax excludes unions. That's fair.
Posted 03:35 PM, 06/25/2009
JimR
NEP is back, Tom is veering left, and CD isn't baying at he moon. make your peace with your God - the end is near.
Posted 03:42 PM, 06/25/2009
LJL
"Two, mutual feelings .... You have a particular grace and calm that I adore. You have a level of sophistication that so fitting with your beauty. I could digress and say that you have the ability to give magnificent gentle kisses, or that I love your tan lines or that I love the curve of your hips, the erotic beauty of you holding yourself (or two magnificent parts of yourself) in the faded glow of the night’s light - but hey, that would be going into sexual details ...".........HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHA! OMFG I can't believe game like that got this twit into that Latina's pants...."faded glow of the night's light"......Shakespeare he ain't.
Posted 03:59 PM, 06/25/2009
NEPhilly
jim, haven't been anywhere, just waiting for something good to discuss as it seems Mr. Polman has 'mailed it in' most of the summer :) I couldn't wait any longer, but good to be missed though! ljl, I didn't think it was too bad for a hillbilly from South Carolina. It does seem he is smitten, though:)
Posted 04:12 PM, 06/25/2009
rsh00
Didn't the Dems apologize for Clinton by saying it's his job performance that counts, not what he does in his private life...until, of course, when the next Dem politician got caught (i.e., John Edwards) they got rid of him really fast and wouldn't let him speak at the Dem Nat'l Convention because suddenly "private life" mattered when it's a political liability for the all-powerful Party.
Posted 04:15 PM, 06/25/2009
tiredoftheBS
I have a soft spot for him too, as I have for any right wing hypocrite who can't control himself and thus can't avoid proving to the world how much of a Hypocrite he really is. That guy must suffer the consequences he trumpeted against others in a similar situation. Total humiliation and repudiation by friends, family and constituency. Anyone can cry.
Posted 04:18 PM, 06/25/2009
still_independent
tom: you are displaying empathy, though. There goes your future on the Supreme Court ;)
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Posted 04:28 PM, 06/25/2009
LJL
So now we know....hypocrisy AND crappy poetry/literature/whatever are requirements for entry into the GOP.
Posted 04:38 PM, 06/25/2009
tr88
Dick, what are you using on your beard and hair, shoe polish? Let it go brother.
Posted 04:46 PM, 06/25/2009
Red Wright-Hand
You're all forgetting the best part: when Gov. Sanford starting referencing Jurassic Park during his press conference. Tell me this guy isn't off his rocker. As for his love letters, the only thing missing from them is talk of "Corinthian leather."
Posted 05:06 PM, 06/25/2009
NigeltheMastiff
Some of you are being particularly cruel. Yes, Sanford is a hypocrite. But would any of us feel that it is fair for anyone to publish for worldwide consumption our very private communications to others? I'm not condoning what Sanford did -- and you certainly know that I'm a liberal. But I just don't believe in laughing at others' feelings. It's legitimate to explore his competence in light of the fact that he left without anyone knowing where he was. But laughing at other people's pain just seems particularly cruel. I agree with Polman that politicians, like all of us, are flawed human beings. None of us knows what any of his personal relationships are about, so we shouldn't judge them. Look, I wish politicians could keep their pants zipped, their hands clean and their egos in check. But that's never going to happen. Let's just focus on the job and leave the judging to his family.
Posted 05:27 PM, 06/25/2009
USA#1
Nigel, I agree with a lot of what your say, but this guy had no problem condemning people for doing the same thing he did so he deserves what he gets(I call it Karma). If politicians would worry about running the government in a way that is best for the people instead of preaching to us and acting like we are bad because we aren’t a Repub or a Dem we wouldn’t have this problem. I’m just sick of these hypocrites acting as bad as or worse than the people they condemn because they aren’t a Repub or a Dem. Most of their morals are no better than a common criminal. The only difference is they have power and wear a suit and tie.
Posted 06:57 PM, 06/25/2009
Think for myself
Sanford is a creep of the highest order besides being a complete and utter hypocrite. He abandoned his duties as Governor and should resign.
Posted 07:41 PM, 06/25/2009
JimR
NEP, it does seem that these are being mailed in. It got very single track for a while - every post was about Repub failings. It leaads to a lot of wandering off topic. Despite the mud wrestling that goes on here though, there is the curiosity that fellow travelers are still around.
Posted 07:47 PM, 06/25/2009
secon
This is very disappointing coming from Mr Polman,whose columns are very often spot on.A hypocritical rightwing ideologist that goes AWOL,whose policies manifest misery and suffering on his constituents,deserves derision,not expressed compassion more in line with a high school sophmore crying over a crush with some poetry.The fact that the useless rightwing twits(the personal responsibility crowd until it concerns one of their own)that troll your posts agree with this nonsense is proof enough.The fact is very few on the right are worthy of compassion due to their lack of it and party-before-country obstructionism.Not to mention imposition of their beliefs on the freedoms of others,not out of concern for the greater good,but to reinforce their power and their fear based hatred of those different than themslves.Good riddance to foul rubbish,not to be unfair to rubbish.I expect you'll regret this column in time Mr Poleman.I hope after Sanford pulls a Blagonovich and wastes more of his backward state's money forcing obvious impeachment that you'll come to your senses.
Posted 10:50 PM, 06/25/2009
Fisher
Sanford should resign. Murphy Rep should resign for violating contribution rules. The problem is the immoral stance, not the message of either side. Those we trust to implement these idealogies, frequently fail. These failures cost America. So much so, we were asked by a radical leader Ahmadinejad request Obama to apologize.
Posted 01:35 AM, 06/26/2009
J.V.D.
I seldom disagree with you, but in this case I do. A guy with a mistress, or a woman with a (paramour?) may be just a person with a less than perfect marriage. It's happened since the begining of time. I'm a Democrat, but if in fact Ike and Bush I had mistresses, I don't begrudge them that. Sanford is different: He was plainly confused about who he is and what his responsibilities were, and had no ability to look at his life in term of the big picture or the long view. Half of him is a mean-spirited moralist, while the other half is so wrapped up in an infatuation that he can't discharge his responsibilities to his state. He should not be governing a state, because he lacks the personal maturity to make responsible decisions. I'll admit, though, that I have mixed feelings about the extent to which the press has published his most embarrassing e-mails.
Posted 02:30 AM, 06/26/2009
Delaware Jim
Dick, it IS more fun to treat Sanford purely as an object of derision. By contrast, Italy's leader Silvio Burlesconi knows how to handle adultery without getting all worked up about it. Now there's a guy who deserves a bit of empathy. And all this time I thought Burlesconi was just a neo-fascist. Now he's a fun guy enjoying the last chapters of life. Sanford merely cries like a little boy scorned on the playground by the cute girl. Yes we've all been there, BUT AS CHILDREN.
Posted 07:27 AM, 06/26/2009
drklassen
"As of today..."?! The GOP seems to have forgotten Newt's abandonment of his cancer-recovering wife (who had been his *high school* geometry teacher) for another woman, whom he later also divorced. He was cheating on wife #3 while castigating Bill Clinton on his affair. Family values, indeed.
Posted 07:32 AM, 06/26/2009
Goo
If the scoundrel, Sanford, had opened his stmt with "Forgive me Father for I have sinned" and continued with "I resign my position as governor of the state of S. Carolina" I might be persuaded to lean in the sympathetic direction you request. However, he did none of those things, and the citizens of the state financed his debauchery
Posted 07:32 AM, 06/26/2009
drklassen
@Fisher: I don't think his affair is any reason for him to resign---I really don't care what these guys do in their private life (other than pointing out hypocrisy when *they* spew comments about caring about the private lives of others). He should resign for the fact that he abandoned his post as Governor---he "went off the grid" for 4 days! I'd say that, in itself, is a resignation.
Posted 08:19 AM, 06/26/2009
Dodge
I sympathize with Sanford to a point. Just as I believe anyone can kill, given enough provocation, so I'm convinced that anyone has the capacity to enmesh himself in a tangled web that defies logic and has ruinous consequences for himself and those around him. But any prominent public figure who thinks he can skip off to Argentina for a long weekend and not say a word to anyone, including his security detail, and keep it a secret is truly a schmuck.
Posted 09:06 AM, 06/26/2009
tom - wilmington, de
Sanford seems like a guy who was "alone" for a long time. Meaning he as married in name only, with his relationship with his wife in tatters. People like that can be vulnerable to stupid mistakes, and while he may be fun to ridicule, I bet a lot of people who post here either know someone in the same boat, or may have been there themselves. Meanwhile, the House today takes up the "cap and tax" bill, which includes a provision to give a worker who loses his job as a result of the legislation a "climate adjustment allowance" for three years (including fully paid health insurance) and also includes a "border fee" for imports from countries that do not limit emissions. This bill, brought to you by the "global cooling denier" crowd, is a job and economic growth killer. Let's hope it fails today in the House. I happen to think this is not the penultimate climate we could have on this planet.....which is what the "non man-made climate change deniers" must believe.
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Posted 11:34 AM, 06/26/2009
Vandy
I actually do have to commend the Democrats on not being hypocritical. They aren't even pretending to hide the fact that they'll do whatever the unions want: "June 26 (Bloomberg) -- The U.S. Senate proposal to impose taxes for the first time on “gold-plated” health plans may bypass generous employee benefits negotiated by unions. Senate Finance Committee Chairman Max Baucus, the chief congressional advocate of taxing some employer-provided benefits to help pay for a $1 trillion overhaul of the U.S. health system, says any change should exempt perks secured in existing collective-bargaining agreements, which can be in place for as long as five years. The exception, which could make the proposal more politically palatable to Democrats from heavily unionized states such as Michigan, is adding controversy to an already contentious debate. It would shield the 12.4 percent of American workers who belong to unions from being taxed while exposing some other middle-income workers to the levy."
Posted 04:10 PM, 06/26/2009
brendancalling
please. it's very nice that you feel badly for a man who was totally disrespecting his wife and kids, and who basically publicly humiliated the same on national television. very sweet. but i noticed you missed a couple of important points. for example, while mark Sanford apparently feels entitled to a wife and lover, a less than traditional arrangement, he doesn't feel gay people should have the right to even ONE spouse. or to adopt children. and he acted on those beliefs, working to ban gay marriage in South Carolina and working to ban gay adoption in DC so very nice, very sweet. and I might have more sympathy iof Sanford had only ruined his own life. But he went out of his way to ruin other people's lives through his sanctimony and bigotry. I would have hoped you'd point that out too.
Posted 11:13 AM, 06/27/2009
p-diddy
Who Sanford has sex with is his (and his family's) business. Just don't do it on a taxpayer funded trip. Hey Tom, "this is not a sordid affair". Um yeah, right. So cheating on your wife is no biggie. I'll bet that you were calling for Clinton's head 10 years ago.
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