http://www.philly.com/inquirer/columnists/dan_gottlieb RSS Feed for Inq Col Dan Gottlieb en-us Mon, 02 Nov 2009 08:01:00 GMT http://www.philly.com/inquirer/columnists/dan_gottlieb/20091102_Ask_Dan__Dying_man_can_t_control__wondering_mind_.html Dear Dan, I was diagnosed with mesothelioma, a type of cancer, in September 2008. I was told it was terminal and that I should get my life in order. How does the average person deal with this? The mental anguish is much harder to endure than any physical pain. http://www.philly.com/inquirer/columnists/dan_gottlieb/20091026_Ask_Dan__Caretaker_needing_to_care_better_for_herself.html We first met Trish on these pages in March when she described how her husband, Rick, was in a car accident and paralyzed from the shoulders down, needing extraordinary care. Contrary to doctors' recommendations, she took him home instead of placing him in a nursing home. Now she works full time, cares for her husband, and is raising their children. http://www.philly.com/inquirer/columnists/dan_gottlieb/20091019_Ask_Dan__Parents__Be_calm__but_vigilant_over_children_s__playing_doctor_.html Dear Dan, Today I found my 4-year-old daughter naked from the waist down and a 5-year-old male friend of hers (clothed) together upstairs. I told her to put on her clothes and come downstairs. http://www.philly.com/inquirer/columnists/dan_gottlieb/20091012_Ask_Dan__Agony__anger_in_child_s_suicide_abates_-_with_time.html Dear Dan, Recently, our beloved son Kenny, just 19, ended his three-year struggle with depression by taking his life. http://www.philly.com/inquirer/columnists/dan_gottlieb/20091005_Ask_Dan__Letting_go_of_the_father_you_hope_for.html Dear Dan: How does one be in a relationship with a narcissistic parent? I am an only child, and my parents were divorced when I was 8. My mother passed away from illness when I was 21, so my father is all I have. He has some health issues, but none that would keep him from working. He chooses not to work and lives off the government on Social Security. http://www.philly.com/inquirer/columnists/dan_gottlieb/20090928_Ask_Dan__A_fall_illness_with_ties_to_depression.html Someone I know well began waking up around 3 a.m. and had difficulty getting back to sleep. He has a history of Seasonal Affective Disorder, which many people begin to experience in late August as the days get shorter, and he suspected this was the first sign. http://www.philly.com/inquirer/columnists/dan_gottlieb/20090921_Ask_Dan__Eventually__children_must_learn_to_fail.html Dear Dan, My young daughter is having a difficult year. She has been doing various sports and playing music for several years with much success. But this year, her first in high school, things are not going well. She has been getting low scores in her athletics compared to her friends. She also did not make the high school band while her friends were accepted. http://www.philly.com/inquirer/columnists/dan_gottlieb/20090914_Ask_Dan__How_parents_can_help_children_after_divorce.html Dear Dan, I am a faithful reader of all things Gottlieb, so I am hoping you can advise me. http://www.philly.com/inquirer/columnists/dan_gottlieb/20090907_Ask_Dan__Did_film_get_a_mental_illness_right_.html Dear Dan, I watched the movie The Soloist about Steve Lopez's relationship with Nathaniel Ayers, the inspirational homeless musician in L.A. http://www.philly.com/inquirer/columnists/dan_gottlieb/20090831_Ask_Dan__The_weight_of_counseling_patients_who_have_cancer.html Dear Dan, I've been facing a very painful realization about the impact my work is having on me. I counsel cancer patients both in person and online. I've been doing this for years and always felt so good from reassuring people about their diagnosis and care options since I had to go it alone when I had this cancer.