Steve and Mia: He can settle down with a woman - for a couple months

Q: I've been married twice, but never really had a long-term relationship. Now in my 40s, I've mastered Internet dating and continuously date multiple women. That strokes the ego, but it's also a curse. I wish I could settle down and be happy, but settling down for me lasts about 3 1/2 months. I was just chewed out by a past girlfriend that I am incapable of having a long-term relationship - the truth hurts. Any advice here?

Steve: You're suffering from Peter Pan syndrome. Most lost boys grow up and settle down. I suggest counseling to find out why you still tire of a woman after 3 1/2 months. You may be looking for something that doesn't exist.

Mia: Steve is right. You don't want to be the old dude with the comb-over at the club trying pick up twentysomethings.

Q: A few weeks ago you published a letter from woman who didn't know how to tell her boyfriend she wanted to be tied up. I have always had fantasies about tying up women as part of sex play. How do I go about finding a woman who wants to take part in the bondage scenarios I do? Craigslist and similar solutions are out - I don't want to be No. 101 on someone's list.

Mia: Whatever kinky girl you find, she'll have a list. So, go online and Google bondage and dating and you'll get plenty of, excuse the pun, hits.

Steve: If you wanted to buy a car, would you expect the car to appear without seeking it out? In the Internet age, it's easy to find someone who shares your interests, no matter how bizarre.