Steve and Mia: Her lover frets she'll get pregnant

Q: I know this sounds weird, but I'm in a relationship with a man who's obsessed with the idea that I might get pregnant. It's not like I'm careless. We take precautions. I've been on the pill forever. At the same time, everyone else around us is having babies.

Mia: I don't know what you're complaining about. He sounds like a keeper to me, especially given how people make babies out of wedlock like it's nothing these days. Your boyfriend is right to be on guard that you don't have an "oops" pregnancy.

If you want to ease his mind, use a backup birth-control method such as condoms. You should be using them anyway, since you're not married and probably haven't been screened for HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases.

Steve: He's being responsible, a good thing. But maybe he doesn't trust you, a bad thing. Talk with him about trust. And, if it makes him feel better, Mia's condom suggestion is a good one.

Q: I messed up and cheated with a woman from the office. It was nearly two years ago. Anyway, my wife forgave me. We had counseling at church and stayed together. But now she won't stop harping on it. How can we move forward if she's constantly looking back?

Mia: I'm not knocking the guidance your minister gave you, but I really think you should see a professional marriage therapist. As a couple, you still have a lot of healing to do and, as you can see, what you've already done hasn't been enough.

Be patient with your wife because what you did really hurt her and it's going to take a bit for this to get out of her system.

Steve: I'd harp on you, too. One of Steve and Mia's basic rules of romance is "never get involved with someone at work." When something goes wrong, you've screwed up both your work life and your social life. You need a heart-to-heart with your wife to determine if she's truly forgiven you. I suspect not. Counseling's a good idea.