Steve and Mia: Her new guy triggers her gaydar alert

Q: I know this sounds silly, but I met a great guy online who's really into me.

We've gone out a few times but I can't get over the feeling that he's gay.

He holds my hands and kisses me and stuff, but it's little things that bug me. Like for instance, the way he walks. He also does things that don't seem all that masculine.

The other day I asked him point-blank if he was gay and he said no. I'm still not convinced, but it's hard to meet someone you really like, and my biological clock is ticking.

Should I hang in there and get to know him better or move on?

Mia: He sounds like a really nice person, but you, not so much.

In all seriousness, if something about this guy gives you pause and nothing he says manages to reassure you, then he's not the right guy for you. Move on.

Your Mr. Right will ease your mind, not keep you up at night fretting over his sexual orientation.

Steve: Does he like show tunes? Just kidding! I agree with Mia. If you feel uncomfortable with a man for whatever reason, it's unlikely the relationship will get better.

Q: What's the thing with girls' night out?

My girlfriend of six months has one every week, and it's starting to bug me. She and her friends always dress up like skanks and hang out at bars flirting and dancing with men.

Even though she always come home to me, she lets men buy her drinks and spends half the night talking to them.

I'm not comfortable with this and I've told her so. But when I complain, she blows me off.

She acts like I'm the one with the problem - not her.

I think if she wants to be a relationship, she should act like it and not run around like she's still single.

Steve: Dressing up like a skank? Dancing, flirting and letting men buy her drinks?

What could possibly go wrong? You're not in a relationship. You're in a half-a---- relationship. If she wanted just you, she wouldn't be flirting with others.

Mia: Dude, your girlfriend is still single and she gets to do what she wants.

You can't come on the scene and expect her to start wearing muumuus because you're not "comfortable" with her club gear. She's having fun with her friends which she has every right to do.

All you can do is voice your concerns and watch. See if she changes her behavior or her party girl ways.

If she doesn't, then you have to reevaluate whether you're really getting what you want from this relationship.

If you're not, then it's time to trade that hot mama for someone who's more of a homebody.